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If you swear to yourself every week that you won't stay in bed all weekend wasting your free time, but you get up early, go to the gym, clean your apartment, and go out with friends, but in the end you resign yourself to the status quo, you have a problem.
That problem is a lack of energy or desire to step out of your comfort zone. Despite your Friday vows, you find hundreds of reasons to put off what you promised yourself for at least another week - you wake up in a bad mood, you're late for work, you're too tired.
You convince yourself that there's nothing wrong with your inactivity, but it's just an attempt at self-deception. And there are several reasons for this.
You tend to be overly controlling
Perhaps you are too inclined to follow rules and routines. Your behavior is determined by a set of rigid rules, and if one of the rules is broken, you get anxious. You like things to go the way you've planned in advance.
If you recognize yourself in this description, you need to start trying to “let go” of events, to let them go as they should, rather than trying to follow the rules in every situation. This craving for excessive control threatens you with the appearance of guilt and anxiety, a refusal to take spontaneous action and enjoy surprises.
You're indecisive
If you shrug your shoulders when your friends ask you “Where do you want to have dinner?” or “Where do you want to go on vacation?”, and when you make online purchases, you compare prices meticulously and then close the tab without settling on any of the options, this can only indicate that you are indecisive.
Indecisiveness usually hides many reasons, for example: unwillingness to enter into a conflict, to prove your point of view or not understanding your own desires. Or maybe you are simply comfortable with decisions being made for you.
You're a perfectionist
The fear of stepping out of your comfort zone can go hand in hand with the fear of making mistakes that perfectionists are so familiar with. They have no concept of “good enough” - they strive to either do everything perfectly or do nothing at all to avoid an undesirable outcome.
Stepping out of their comfort zone is a real challenge for any perfectionist, and it is unlikely that they will dare to do so without pressure. Such people are more at ease with performing those actions that they have brought to automaticity.
You have a weak will
Your problem may be that you allow yourself to feel weak-willed, which ultimately affects all areas of your life and prevents you from achieving your goals.
For example, if getting up early in the morning for work is too hard for you, you won't solve the problem by simply setting your alarm clock an hour earlier. You will need to train yourself to act regardless of your mood. You have to develop the willpower to let your brain take over your momentary emotions.
In fact, you can start exercising or, for example, getting up early on any day, not just Monday, if you can get over yourself.
You are passive
People who avoid conflict situations, responsibility and important decisions are accustomed to simply going with the flow. It is extremely difficult to get out of such a passive state: any change is rejected by a passive person and can only be undertaken under pressure from loved ones.
You're irritable
A person who cannot get along with his temperament usually suffers from two problems at once.
First, he is extremely difficult to cope with anger and other negative emotions. Any, even the most insignificant detail, can take him out of his mind, and regain control of himself will not be so easy.
Secondly, such people have an extremely narrow emotional range. Their main emotions are anger and irritability.
Any attempt to step out of their comfort zone for such a person is a stressor that causes them to lose control of their emotions.
You suffer from anxiety
Anxiety is one of the strongest hindrances for a person who is trying to step out of their comfort zone.
There is only one way to overcome it - if you learn to tolerate small doses of anxiety at first, despite your anxiety and stress, and then by gradually increasing stressors, develop your tolerance for anxiety little by little.
Each successful attempt will make you a little more confident in yourself and your abilities.
You are depressed
If you've been feeling depressed, sad, cornered and lonely for a long time, there's a good chance that you have a depressive disorder.
Of course, you can't diagnose it without a medical degree, and we don't advise you to self-medicate. Just pay attention to how you're feeling.
When you don't have a goal or the energy to achieve it, it's no wonder that getting out of your comfort zone becomes an overwhelming task. Consider several options, from seeing a therapist and starting medication to working with a counselor on a regular basis.
You're overly compliant
Don't be too quick to dismiss this option. You may avoid trying to step out of your comfort zone simply because your family, friends, or coworkers may not approve of your decision in theory.
In order to learn to stand up for yourself, you should start with small steps - don't walk away from an argument or, for example, pay attention to mistakes that people around you make that negatively affect you.
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