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Human life is not predetermined, but inevitable things happen. Sooner or later they happen, regardless of your desire. You can persevere, hope for the fate of the chosen one, deny reality, but one day it just happens. Always unexpectedly and extremely ill-timed.
Usually inevitable events spoil your mood, sometimes become the cause of psychological trauma, but can also completely destroy your world, dividing life into “before and ‘after’.
The inevitable has an upside. If we know that it will definitely happen, then we can prepare in advance. It all starts with acceptance. Then we can look at things that cannot be changed from a different angle and even benefit from them.
Conflicts
Throughout our lives we meet many different people. Some acquaintances turn out to be fleeting, others turn into relationships or friendship. The wider your social circle, the higher the probability of conflict escalation, the more likely it is that a quarrel will arise.
The reasons are not so important, they can easily be found. The initiator can be you or the other party. So we lose, it would seem, faithful friends, destroy the eternal love, fixed by vows.
Even if you are the kindest and most compliant person in the world, conflicts cannot be avoided. They will catch you in a moment of emotional instability or poor health. Become the last straw in the taut ties stretched to the limit. You can't stand it, you'll get tired of listening in silence and finally speak out. Or, on the contrary, you will hear something unexpected from a person who should not have said so.
Be prepared for a probable quarrel with your closest people. The moment it happens, don't rush to respond and blame. Take poise, assess the severity and depth of the conflict. Find a compromise that allows you to preserve your own dignity, without breaking the relationship with a really dear person.
If in front of you is just a fellow traveler, say goodbye to him, keeping lightness of heart. This can be achieved by elevating yourself above the situation. Do not yell back, do not arrange public clarification, demonstrate calmness, win with politeness.
Weaknesses
Every person has weaknesses, habits and addictions. Some of them are genetically determined, others are acquired over the years, becoming part of life.
You should be prepared for the fact that even the most ideal, in your opinion, people have many shortcomings. The expectations set will not be met many times. Only it's nobody's fault but your own. Expectations are yours and most likely not justified.
The worst thing that can happen at times like this is losing faith in people. The easiest thing to do is to accept the role of the victim, to believe that you have been let down, maybe even deceived. Ask yourself this question: are you perfect?
It's easy to admit that you're not. At least you don't suffer from narcissism. However, we tend to think of our shortcomings as less critical. What you get is a double standard and a maximally corrupt court where the judge, prosecutor and defense attorney are one person.
With reliable support and motivation, people are able to substitute weaknesses, give up habits.
Facing failure
This surprise happens far more often than any of the others on our list. People face this or that setback almost every day. You didn't make it to the green light, and now you're going to wait. Just bad luck or already a failure, and most importantly, where is the line? Such trifles do not have a significant impact on the psyche, only can piss you off while the process continues. Then the light turns green and you exhale.
There will be far more serious failures in your life, whether related to your job, personal relationships, or area of interest.
You won't succeed at everything, at least certainly not the first time around. But would it be fun to do anything knowing the outcome ahead of time?
Potential failure is part of any activity. To avoid them completely, you have to do nothing at all. However, then failure would be life itself.
Regretting loss
People tend to undervalue the value of what they have. We always desire more, and this is not a reproach. Without this desire, our civilization would not have been formed. We would have stayed in caves, cooking on fires. Although the conquest of fire can also be attributed to excesses - we lived somehow without it.
In the pursuit of more, you will regularly lose what you have.
It can be things, people, perspectives. Realization always comes much later, when nothing can be changed. You can't get the past back, but if you prepare yourself for such losses, you can learn lessons and gain experience. Each realized and appreciated loss makes a person a little wiser.
Aging
You are not the same person you were 10 years ago. No less strong changes will happen in the future, in the same 10-20-30 years. One day you will grow old - it is inevitable.
However, old age is very different. Some people first age in their souls - such people are not young at 30. Others retain their vivacity, some fire in their eyes until the age of 60. However, by that time the body will still send clear signals.
There are two important things you can do in preparation for the inevitable old age.
First, take care of your health from a young age. Right now it's a blank slate for you, but that will change.
Second, don't think about getting old. There is still enough time to realize everything you have planned. Collect as many positive emotions and vivid memories as you can. That's the most precious thing you'll have left at the end.
Death
The guaranteed ending to any life is death. It will affect you, your family and friends. Chances are you've dealt with death before, especially if you have pets. Overall, it's not a big deal. The only question is who will outlive whom.
On the one hand, you don't want to see dear people die, but it's also pretty stupid to rush to the other side of the world. Suddenly life is disposable, exchangeable and non-returnable. Then you should spend as much time here as possible - until the very last second.
Don't be afraid of death, because when it comes, you will be gone. You will not meet, because you exist on different planes.
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