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Even if your relationship has lasted for a long time and seems strong to you, it does not guarantee marriage, family and growing old together.
Often couples who are admired by those around them suddenly break up. There are many factors that can lead to a breakup, but in this article we have listed the most important reasons before which any attachment is powerless.
One partner can't get rid of negative habits
In a long-term relationship, one of the partners can wait a long time for his loved one to get rid of negative habits. But as soon as it comes to the realization that this will never happen, the union gives a crack.
Regardless of what spoils your relationship: addiction to alcohol, drugs, life-threatening hobbies, illegal activities, and so on, such behaviors cause serious damage to the relationship.
The unwillingness of one of the couple to keep their promises and end their habits leads to severe disappointment and makes them reconsider their plans for the future.
Financial problems arise in a couple
Managing money together, spending together and ensuring a comfortable standard of living is a challenge for any couple. Therefore, financial problems can be a reason for separation even after several years together.
Resource allocation, mismatched opinions, sudden changes in income, forced spending - all of these can lead to more frequent conflicts. Especially if one of you does not see the problem or ignores it, and the other is in a state of extreme anxiety.
One partner changes life priorities
At the beginning of a relationship, you may completely match in values and life priorities. For example, both of you want to build a family, to buy a home, to reach a comfortable level of income. But after some time, priorities may change under the pressure of other people or life circumstances, or maybe just because of rethinking your experience and values.
When the priorities of you and your soulmate are transformed, there is a divergence in plans for the future, which leads to distance from each other. The dreams that you previously shared no longer align, forcing you to make some serious decisions.
Your expectations are being deceived
When you enter a relationship, each of you builds your expectations about your future. But they can't be 100% true. One way or another, something will go against your plans or your partner's aspirations. If you are not ready to reconcile with this discrepancy, you are not really ready to build a serious and long-term relationship.
Another scenario that makes you break up even after a few years together is someone in the couple simply stops pretending.
At the beginning of a relationship, one or even both of you may try to conform to other people's perceptions and expectations. Once you relax and gain confidence that you're not going anywhere with each other, all the masks come off, exposing your real personalities.
Trust issues arise in the couple
Trust is too fragile a thing. Once betrayed, it can be lost forever. And no action can erase the memory of that betrayal. No matter how many years you've been dating each other, one mistake can undo all the good things.
As soon as there are trust issues in your couple, the relationship starts to crack at the seams. All the old grudges, misunderstandings, and frustrations come to the forefront and only reinforce the already negative atmosphere between you. Lack of trust inevitably leads you to suspicion, jealousy and uncertainty about your shared future.
You grow and develop at different rates
Sometimes it happens like this: you meet and start dating at roughly the same level. But at some point, maybe after a few months or even years of relationship, you suddenly realize that you grow and develop at different rates.
For example, one of you wants more, he can afford better living conditions, needs large-scale changes, constantly expands his knowledge and skills. And the other is practically in the same place where he was at the time of the birth of your relationship.
A strong difference in the pace of your development can become tangible and even increase the distance between you. Your priorities, habits, and goals will no longer align, and you will have to make a choice: stay in a relationship where one will necessarily have to stunt your growth and the other will have to push themselves, or keep moving forward at a comfortable pace, but alone.
Third parties interfere with the relationship
Relationships are always about the interaction of two people. As soon as you let a third person into your personal space and into your problems: a parent, a sibling, a best friend, and so on, you become too crowded.
In addition, the people who find themselves involved in your relationship begin to influence it. Everyone is eager to give some advice, to give an opinion, to remake one of you or even to stand up for their own interests.
So, if possible, keep a low profile about what's going on between you and your soulmate. After a few days or weeks, the problem may be resolved, and it will be extremely difficult to change people's opinion of your couple or the extent of their involvement in your relationship.
You are breaking a physical or emotional bond
Even if you have been together for a long time and have gone through many difficulties, it does not guarantee that you will be able to keep the physical and emotional connection further. Let's elaborate more on this.
The physical breakdown of a relationship is problems in sex that you ignore, dissatisfaction, lack of attraction to each other and so on.
Of course, sex is far from the most important thing in a relationship. However, without it, your interactions can flow smoothly into friendship. Therefore, it is impossible to keep silent or save up problems when you are dissatisfied with your sex life. You should be completely open to each other, as well as ready to listen, hear and seek compromise.
In turn, an emotional breakdown in a relationship is an inability to build healthy interactions, empathize and support each other, and discuss and explain the issues that are troubling you. The bigger the chasm between you becomes, the more often you run away from the relationship in search of someone who can understand you. This can be friends, family, new acquaintances who may later turn into lovers.
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