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There are times in life when everything seems to go wrong. Problems arise in work, personal life, financial matters and self-esteem. And, as always, it all comes crashing down on your shoulders at once, and you don't have time to figure out what to do next.
In such situations, it's very easy to get confused, scared and lose your bearings. As a consequence, you won't be able to make a single good decision and will bury yourself deeper and deeper into endless problems. We've put together some working tips on where you should start if you've hit a dark patch in your life.
Restore resources
If your strength is running low, you should start restoring it. First of all, start forcing yourself to relax.
Yes, when your thoughts are busy assessing the real scale of your problems, it is extremely difficult to relax. But you need to at least try - without it, it will be impossible to restore your energy. Start sleeping enough to get enough sleep, don't forget to eat a full meal, devote at least half an hour a day to those activities that bring you pleasure.
In addition, you should reconsider your priorities. Some of the tasks in the schedule of things to do for the day should have been crossed out long ago for lack of need or replaced by something more important and necessary.
Remember, you have a limited amount of time, energy and money. So you should invest them only in things that help you move toward your desired goal.
Take a break to calm down
Making decisions based on emotion is the worst thing you can do at this point.
You will have a hard time thinking based on logic. Feelings of fear, frustration, anger, resentment, and other strong emotions will lead you away from making informed decisions. As a result, you can only make the situation worse by adding more problems to your life.
First, take a break to calm down and think. Do not rush yourself if the circumstances do not require urgent action. It's better to wait a bit and come to the right decision than to rush and screw up. And in general, try to be a little kinder and more forgiving to yourself. Problems happen in everyone's life, they don't make you weak, stupid or naive. You're just unlucky, and you need to accept that.
Realize what you're striving for
The first and most important thing you have to do is to figure out what you want to get to.
For example, you want to stay in a relationship or you think it would be better for you to break up with your girlfriend, you plan to stay in your job or you have been thinking about finding something more suitable for you for a long time. Think about what you want and who you see yourself as in the future. This will help you not to get confused when making decisions and realize what you should spend your time and energy on, and what you should give up altogether.
When you identify a goal or several goals you want to reach, you will understand what you need to do. Cause-and-effect relationships will tell you the necessary algorithm of actions.
Have a clear plan of action
If you've already decided what you want, it's time to figure out how to achieve it. Take into account your knowledge and skills, your past experience, the mistakes you've made.
In order to solve the problem quickly, you will have to act strictly according to the developed plan. It's easy to surrender to your emotions, your fears, or simply decide that you're not responsible for what's happening to you. But doing so is unlikely to change the situation: rather, your inaction will lead to even worse circumstances.
Problem solving, especially if you need to handle several areas of your life at once, will require good planning skills and a high level of self-discipline. You must be clear about what you have to do and when you have to do it, and, most importantly, make yourself work even at times when you don't have the desire or energy to do so.
Be prepared for the challenges ahead
It's easy to say you're ready for the challenges ahead. But in reality, you may not even realize how hard it will be to deal with your own life. Financial problems, breakups, betrayals, job loss, illness, death of loved ones - all of these things take a heavy toll on your emotional state and psyche.
You need to prepare yourself as much as possible for everything you might face in the future. To make you feel more comfortable, think about what you will do if things don't go according to plan or if your worst assumptions come true.
Don't expect your problems to be solved in a couple days or weeks. In most cases, for you to experience significant change, you need to be patient and keep working, even when you feel like all your efforts are in vain.
Accept help
In times when you have too much on your plate, don't be reluctant to accept any help from others. You may think you can handle everything on your own-and you may even be right in that assumption. But ask yourself: is it wise to push other people away if you can solve problems faster with their support, using less of your resources and avoiding negative consequences due to lack of knowledge and skills?
The only correct answer is that it's stupid to do so. Of course, if necessary, you will be able to figure it all out yourself, but do not neglect the resources of others in a difficult situation.
Analyze other people's advice, thank them for their constructive criticism, and take advantage of offers of help. Anything that will move you forward in any way to solve pressing problems should be used by you.
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