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Sometimes the feeling of hopelessness becomes so overpowering that every endeavor and even life itself seems meaningless. At such times it is difficult to get out of bed, and it is impossible to work with dedication.
Things or activities that usually gave joy, turn into an obligation. Meetings with friends and relatives are perceived as a kind of duty. All thoughts revolve around one desire - to soon be home again alone with hopelessness.
You can get used to this situation, then there is a risk of depression or existence in a state of complete apathy. All biological processes run in the usual mode, but life is deprived of colors. To break out of the enveloping gloom, you need to take a number of steps.
It all starts with invading your own consciousness, asking questions and searching for answers.
The Source of Hopelessness
First of all, it is necessary to find the source of hopelessness. This feeling does not exist on its own and necessarily has a foundation.
Usually, the roots of hopelessness lead to one of three areas of life: personal goals, relationships, or work. Painful failure on any of these fronts can lead to an overall feeling of depression. A broken relationship, denial of a long-awaited career promotion, or a chronic lack of time to realize one's desires makes one perceive life as a continuous failure. Although in reality a person faced only an unpleasant, and most importantly, the final stage.
Finding the origins of hopelessness, you can look at the whole picture, adequately assess other areas of life. Probably, everything is not so bad there; there is no global tragedy. There are one or more specific setbacks, and a lack of optimism.
Past experiences
Think back to a past experience. You've probably experienced something similar before. A failed first love, the last night before an exam with a lot of unlearned material. Then, too, it seemed that the world was about to collapse, but it did not happen.
One way or another the difficulties were overcome, now you don't even remember them. The overwhelming feeling of hopelessness disappeared as imperceptibly as it had appeared. This story will happen again, even though it seems to you now that the situation is much more serious.
Dealing with the past is important to stay in touch with reality. Nothing irreversible or fatal is happening to you. There is a lifetime ahead of you. In addition, past experiences can point to ways to overcome a crisis. Mechanisms that have helped in the past are likely to be useful now. Something needs to be found to occupy attention and distract from the cyclical analysis of looming hopelessness.
Linkage management
Analyze your social circle. Right now, you should limit your contacts with toxic people. The last thing you need is additional sources of pressure that reinforce your sense of powerlessness. It may turn out that in the list of harmful connections will be almost all friends. In this case, you will have to learn to enjoy being alone. This skill will be useful in the future - throughout life, not just in periods of personal crisis.
Notice people who, on the contrary, by their presence and communication give a sense of encouragement. Such support is the best medicine. At the same time, do not look for pity, fall into emotional dependence. Show initiative, but do not impose. Your relationship should be based on equality, be of a mutually beneficial nature. Just equal interest in each other's personality will be enough.
Hopelessness level
Try to assess your level of hopelessness on a daily basis. Of course, there are no tables with calculations, lists with acceptable and critical values. So choose any system - by points, percentages or whatever.
The point is that the feeling of hopelessness fluctuates. For example, Monday morning it's a 10, Friday night it's a 5. Changes happen as the week progresses as well. It's important to pick up on triggers that contribute to the ups and downs of feeling depressed.
By realizing that your mood and perception of life are influenced not only by random events like solar flares or horoscope forecasts, but also by direct actions, you can develop tactics to stay positive. Whenever possible, avoid things that increase hopelessness, and conversely, do uplifting things more often, even if they seem like silly fun.
Daily accomplishments
You need it like air. Everyday achievements are positive results of meaningful activities that are not intended to be widely recognized by the public, simply put, any victories.
The best fit is sports. After all, the very fact of playing sports in adulthood is already an achievement. If there will be a trifling, literally yard recognition, it will multiply the effect. This tool to increase self-esteem is not available to everyone. Many people in principle have never practiced sports and do not want to get additional loads. Especially if they already work physically. In this case, you should choose something else.
Any creativity, personal hobby, which implies the possibility of progress, will do. The point is to challenge hopelessness. Show her that you have enough regular achievements, therefore, you are not crushed, not just existing, but fully alive and able to win.
